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面對玩具店吵著買玩具的小朋友,可以這麼做 - 學學趣

面對玩具店吵著買玩具的小朋友,可以這麼做

許多父母都會遇到一個困擾,就是當孩子在玩具店坳著要買玩具的時候,父母過於通融,讓孩子每次都能達成心願,久而久之,孩子就養成了什麼都能夠得到的習慣。

記得小時候,父親曾經給了我和弟弟一人200元的超商禮券,規定我們一人最多只能買200,我覺得這是一個教孩子有條件花費的方法。

在關於孩子吵著要買玩具的這件事情上,父母都必須要有自己的底線,因為有了底線之後,才能夠讓孩子抓清楚自己的界線。

前幾天去演講,談論的依然是依附關係。有位媽媽提出了一個很好的問題。確實,在嬰兒哭的時候給予擁抱,讓他們獲得安全感,久而久之反而能讓孩子更獨立,也就是所謂安全依附的教養方式。

但是,那位媽媽說,她的孩子每次都賴在玩具店不走,非要買到不可,到底該怎麼辦?

我回覆了她一種作法,之前我讀到的書上面說,沒有買到玩具,並不代表就無法把情感傳遞給孩子。當孩子在哭泣時,先同理她的感受,例如:「你真的很想要這個玩具對不對?媽媽可以明白你的感受。媽媽也覺得她很可愛。」

在同理之後,一樣要試著劃出界線,例如:「可是你已經有很多娃娃了耶,這樣下去,那些娃娃會被丟在一旁喔。走吧,讓我們跟這隻兔兔說再見~」

有另一個中年婦女接著我的例子講下去,她說:「我沒有結婚,但常常幫親戚帶小孩。每次計畫出去玩,但卻不買東西時,我都會和孩子說,今天只要去逛街喔,沒有要買東西喔。」能夠和孩子事先說好承諾,是練習教導孩子界線的方式之一。

對於孩子的突發狀況實在很多,但最重要的是,先同理對方的情緒,再帶她劃清界線,讓孩子學習如何控管與忍受自己「不能每個都想要」的心理,這才是最重要的。

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